Emotional Intelligence plays a large part in the road leading to success. Getting a better understanding of this can have huge impact on all areas of your life. A question I’ve been asked many times – what is emotional intelligence? Put simply it is the ability to recognise and manage your emotions and those of others. It is the ability to be able to discern between different feelings guiding thinking and behaviour appropriately. Your head and heart combine to create emotional intelligence. People who are emotionally intelligent have the ability to navigate through sticky emotional waters. This is what happens when you are emotionally intelligent.
- Ability to Use Head and Heart collectively – EI isn’t the triumph of heart over head. It’s the ability to regulate emotions and combine the head and heart to solve problems effectively. There are situations where EI is considered more important that IQ as being smart doe not necessarily translate into success.
- Self Awareness – This is being aware of what you are feeling and why you are feeling this way. This is crucial as it leads you towards your triggers of anger, emotional upset etc. Remember when you understand your feelings and emotions you are able to raise your confidence when you make serious decisions as you will have a far deeper understanding of how you are going to react.
- Strong Self Management Skills – This is knowing when being emotional is resourceful and when it can be damaging in a situation. A lot of us including myself tend to wear our heart on our sleeves. Whilst this may not neccessarily be a bad thing for certain situations you will find that you are far more likely to get burnt out if you consistently operate in this manner.
- Strong Leadership Skills – As a leader you must have a solid understanding of how your emotions and actions affect those who work alongside you. A good leader relates to and works with others. Strong leaders take time to work on motivational skills, and self awareness. Self-regulation, empathy and social skills are also key to being a good leader.
- Empathy – Being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes allows you to step outside of yourself and see another persons perspective. Showing empathy and willingness to cooperate whilst dealing with people who are different from you is what helps build good relations at work.
- Impressive social skills – This is not all about being extroverted. It’s more about understanding your audience and environment when navigating a social setting. It’s important to know who you are interacting with and what people’s needs are. This shows respect and acceptance allowing you to make friends and connections.
- Resilience – This is the ability to bounce back from hard times. Embrace your difficult emotions and use them as an opportunity to grow and learn.